FORT LAUDERDALE COUNSELING AND THERAPY BLOG
From Maesk Counseling in Fort Lauderdale - HELLO MASSACHUSETTS!
BIG NEWS!!!
Maesk Counseling is pleased to announce that we are now serving the Commonwealth of Massachusetts. As of today, you may book a telehealth appointment and be seen within days.
As you may know, there is a shortage of mental health professionals in Massachusetts, and we are pleased beyond words that we can now step in to help fill that gap.
You can book your appointment here: APPOINTMENT NOW!
From Maesk Counseling in Fort Lauderdale - Overcoming Trauma
You know you got your hairline from your Dad’s side of the family and your eye color from your mom. You know diabetes runs in your family, as does heart disease and Parkinson’s.
But do you know that many families also pass down trauma to their loved ones? It’s not just our physical makeup and risk of disease that we inherit from our family, it is also the emotional wounds as well.
What is Transgenerational Trauma?
Before you were born you were in your mother’s womb and very susceptible to her emotions. As your mother felt joy, her body released hormones that made you feel joy.
When she felt sad, scared, or angry, her body released hormones that made her experience these same emotions.
Eventually, you were born and raised in a house that may not always be happy or harmonious. Your parents may have been emotionally distant or even abusive because they may have been brought up by parents who had their own reasons for being emotionally absent or abusive.
Many families have unresolved trauma that works its way through one generation to the next. Those families who have dealt with addiction, depression, anxiety, terror, racism, and the like, often continue to pass on negative emotions, poor behaviors, low self-esteem, and maladaptive coping strategies. These not only lead to a painful and hard life, but they can also lead to chronic health conditions.
It Can Stop With You!
If you have a history of family conflict or trauma, you can be the individual who puts an end to the cycle. You can be the one who begins a new cycle, one of passing down loving communication and positive self-images.
Of course, it will take work on your part to overcome the pain of your family history. That’s why it’s a good idea to work with a mental health professional who can offer you the right tools and coping strategies that you can then pass down to your own children.
If you’re interested in exploring therapy, please get in touch with me! I’d love to help you end the cycle of trauma in your family.
SOURCES:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-flourishing-family/202107/breaking-the-chains-generational-trauma
https://tinybuddha.com/blog/overcoming-intergenerational-trauma-we-can-break-the-cycle-of-abuse/
https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/latinx-mental-health-stigma
From Maesk Counseling in Fort Lauderdale - Relationship Independence
The Importance of Independence in a Relationship
When we first fall in love with that special someone, we want to spend all of our time together. In fact, we seem to feel better when we are with our significant other.
This is the infatuation stage, and admittedly, it feels really good. But enduring relationships move past this stage and into a place of mutual respect and care. This will require each partner to give the other space to be their own individuals.
Why Individuality and Independence are Important in Relationships
First, what does it really mean to be an independent individual? It means you know how to be your own person, whether you are single or in a relationship. It means while you make the effort to make your partner happy, you also ensure that you continue to do the things you enjoy that bring you happiness.
The following are just some of the reasons why there should always be independence in a relationship:
No One Likes Clingy
When you lack independence and don’t have a solid sense of yourself, you can come across as “clingy” or needy. If you want to be around your partner 24/7 and they are wanting space, your neediness can drain their energy.
Mutual Growth
When the two of you stay independent, you give each other the opportunity to grow as individuals, which then can lead to growth as a couple.
Mutual Support
Independent people are strong people, and strong people can be counted on when it matters most. When you are both strong individuals, you can lend that support when the other needs it.
Need Help Getting Your Independent Spirit Back?
Most of us demanded our independence when we were in our teens and early 20s. But life happens, and we can often lose that independent spirit and lose our own identities. If you need some help reconnecting with yourself so that you may one day enjoy a beneficial partnership, please get in touch with me. I’m more than happy to discuss how therapy can help.
SOURCES:
https://www.marriage.com/advice/relationship/be-independent-in-a-relationship/
https://www.symbiosiscoaching.com/why-independence-is-important-in-a-relationship/
https://www.lifehack.org/articles/communication/how-being-independent-improves-your-long-term-relationship.html
From Maesk Counseling in Fort Lauderdale - HELLO UTAH!
Maesk Counseling is happy to announce that we are now licensed to practice in the state of Utah, and are welcoming new telehealth patients throughout the state.
More details will follow in the days and weeks ahead, but if you are ready to get started, please go HERE and you will be able to register as a new patient and set an online appointment.
We look forward to serving everyone in the great state of Utah!
Sandstones Valley, Utah
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From Maesk Counseling in Fort Lauderdale - Celebrating Juneteenth
Juneteenth is short for “June Nineteenth” and marks a very important day in American history. This is the day federal troops entered Galveston, Texas in 1865 and took control to ensure all slaves were freed. Juneteenth is thought to be the longest-running African American holiday. It became an official federal holiday on June 17, 2021.
While slavery was abolished over 250 years ago, there is lingering trauma that has been passed down through the generations in the black community. As we celebrate Juneteenth this year, it’s important to focus on the overall mental health and well-being of the community.
Barriers To Mental Health Care
Historically, the African American community has been faced with certain barriers that have made seeking mental health services challenging.
Socioeconomic Disparities
It is common for members of the black community to experience socioeconomic disparities that make it hard to finance mental health treatment. Recent data suggest that 11% of black adults in this country have no form health insurance.
Stigma
It is common for people in the black community to have negative attitudes and beliefs about mental health issues and treatment for those issues. In fact, one study found that 63% of black people still believe that admitting to struggling with a mental health condition is a sign of personal weakness.
As a result of this lingering stigma, people often feel shame for having a mental health condition and choose to not seek help for fear of being bullied or scorned.
Trust
People of color often prefer to speak with therapists within their own community. Speaking with another person of color, who understands the microaggressions and burdens you face on a daily basis, can be tremendously helpful for healing.
Currently, the psychology workforce is predominantly white, which often makes it difficult for BIPOC people to find a therapist they feel comfortable with. It is hoped that in the coming years, more young people of color will take an interest and the initiative to become a trained and licensed therapist.
Making a Commitment
This Juneteenth, it is important that people in the African American community make a commitment to their mental health. It may be helpful for you to get on the phone with a few potential providers and ask some questions to get a sense of their level of cultural awareness. What is their history of treating people of color? How sensitive are they to the plights black people face today?
When you find a provider that can meet your needs, you can begin the journey of healing.
SOURCES:
https://www.history.com/juneteenth
https://www.mhanational.org/issues/black-and-african-american-communities-and-mental-health
https://nami.org/Your-Journey/Identity-and-Cultural-Dimensions/Black-African-American
From Maesk Counseling in Fort Lauderdale - The Power of Nature
The Healing Power of Nature
One only needs to read a few lines from poets such as Frost, Wordsworth, and Thoreau to recognize the love for and connection to nature human beings have always had. Nature stirs our souls and imagination and brings beauty to our everyday lives. But it turns out, nature also brings a slew of benefits to our mental and physical health.
The Many Benefits of Spending Time in Nature
Research is now clearly indicating that spending time outdoors can have a positive impact on our health. Whether you bike, hike, or simply sit under a tree enjoying the sights and sounds, time in nature has shown to reduce stress, slow heart rate, improve pain, lower cortisol, and stimulate the immune system by boosting the production of natural killer cells that fight disease and infection.
In addition, time outside means time in the sun, and THAT means getting a nice boost of vitamin D, which can do everything from preventing disease, make our bones and teeth stronger, and improve our mood.
Give Ecotherapy a Try
Ecotherapy, which is also sometimes referred to as nature therapy, is a practice in the emerging field of ecopsychology. The idea behind this practice is that many modern people, whether they are aware of it or not, feel a massive disconnect from the natural world. When you think about it, our ancestors spent hundreds of thousands of years living WITH nature, feeling it under their bare feet, being outside, ebbing and flowing with the shifts in seasons.
But today, most of us are only connected to a digital device. Ecotherapy gets us away from our screens and out into the beauty of the natural world. Many clinicians, including myself, believe that the earth has a natural ability to balance us. When we get back in touch with the systems of nature, we can experience improved mental health.
If you are feeling out of sorts and like the idea of trying ecotherapy, you can simply spend more time outside. If you would like someone to help you reconnect with nature, please get in touch with me. I am a big proponent of nature therapy and use it in my practice.
SOURCES:
https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/how-healing-works/202103/the-healing-power-nature
https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/types/econature-therapy
https://www.natureandforesttherapy.earth/about/the-practice-of-forest-therapy
From Maesk Counseling in Fort Lauderdale - How Anger Affects the Family
Does My Family Have Anger Issues?
It’s not easy accepting that you or someone in your immediate family has trouble controlling their anger. But the sooner you can accept it, the sooner you and your family can find help and begin to heal and learn more respectful ways to communicate.
Here are some signs you and/or someone in your family has anger issues.
The person becomes overtly angry at a mild or insignificant frustration or irritant.
There are later feelings of shame and guilt over something said or done in anger.
You or a family member has experienced big ramifications because of an angry outburst. These can include lawsuits, physical altercations, school suspensions, etc.).
Extended family and/or friends have suggested you or your loved one get some help for your/their anger.
You or your loved one have chronic physical ailments such as hypertension, anxiety, gastrointestinal difficulties.
As young people, we learn to interact with others based on how our family members interact with each other. Once these communication patterns become established in our young minds, it’s hard to change them as adults. This means that any relational patterns that include angry outbursts or aggressive behaviors are apt to appear in our relationships later in life.
Getting Help
Fortunately, you and your family do not have to live the way you currently are. Family counselors are trained to identify behavioral patterns that have been passed from one generation to the next. Once these patterns are uncovered, your therapist can help your family learn appropriate expressions and communication patterns. He or she can also facilitate healthy communication among the group, allowing each family member to share their thoughts, concerns, and feelings safely and without judgment.
Family issues do not have to be severe to seek guidance from a trained therapist. The treatment provides all families the opportunity to understand one another better and communicate in healthier ways.
If you’re interested in getting your family some help, please reach out to me. I’d be more than happy to discuss treatment options.
SOURCES:
https://www.aamft.org/Consumer_Updates/Effect_of_Anger_on_Families.aspx
https://www.goodtherapy.org/learn-about-therapy/issues/family-problems
From Maesk Counseling in Fort Lauderdale - Emotional Support Animals
For “no pets” housing, you will need an Emotional Support Animal Evaluation. It is critically important to have this done by a professional who knows what they are doing. Not a week goes by where we do not receive a call from someone who has received an ESA Evaluation from an out-of-state or internet provider who did not understand the requirements or process, and therefore the client’s letter was poorly written and invalid, and was subsequently rejected by a housing authority.
Remember, the rules changed last year, so it is important to be up to date…we are!
We are used to cleaning up others’ messes! Contact us to schedule your evaluation today.
From Maesk Counseling in Fort Lauderdale - What is Social Anhedonia?
When you boil life down to its very essence, you’ll find what’s left is a series of human emotions. All of the experiences in our life come with emotion, whether it’s joy, sadness, anger, or anxiety. That’s why so many people choose to do everything they can to avoid situations that bring pain and only focus on those experiences that offer them pleasure.
How different life would be if we weren’t able to feel the pleasure that human experiences offer us. Some people, however, go through life not being able to feel pleasure. These people suffer from what’s called anhedonia.
What is Social Anhedonia?
Anhedonia is a term used to describe a condition where someone is unable to enjoy the good or pleasurable things in life. Physical anhedonia describes when someone cannot experience pleasure from physical sensations such as the taste of food or the loving caress of a partner.
Social anhedonia describes someone who cannot experience the joy of human companionship.
Of the two disorders, social anhedonia is far more common. Though having said that, it’s important to point out that social anhedonia is not the same as introversion, shyness, or social anxiety. Instead, social anhedonia describes a condition where the person’s ability to feel pleasure and enjoyment from social interactions is diminished or totally missing.
Some of the most common symptoms of social anhedonia are:
Social withdrawal
Lack of relationships
Reduced emotional responses
Depression
Poor social adjustment
Decreased overall positivity
Monotone or flat vocal expression
Causes and Treatment Options
At the root of anhedonia is often depression, though not everyone who experiences social anhedonia is depressed. Unfortunately, many prescription medications for depression can actually cause anhedonia.
Other risk factors for developing anhedonia include:
A family history of schizophrenia or depression
A traumatic or stressful event
A history of neglect or abuse
A chronic illness that impacts your quality of life
A major and sudden illness
Disordered eating
If you believe you or a loved one may be suffering from social anhedonia, it’s important to make an appointment with your healthcare provider to determine if your symptoms are the result of some type of vitamin deficiency or a thyroid disorder.
If everything checks out physically, then it’s important to begin working with a mental health therapist. He or she can develop a customized treatment plan that will focus on what is called “behavioral activation interventions.” I have found in my own practice that by prompting clients to take external actions and focus on savoring or noticing positive experiences, healing can occur, and it can become more commonplace to feel joy from social interactions. In addition, if you are suffering from depression and your social anhedonia is a result, that can be addressed through therapy as well.
If you or a loved one are not enjoying life to the fullest and would like to explore treatment options, please be in touch with me. Contact me HERE. Thanks so much.
SOURCES:
https://www.goodtherapy.org/blog/Indicators-of-Social-Anhedonia
https://www.healthline.com/health/depression/anhedonia#causes